Sunday sermon 25 September 2016 – The Lord’s Prayer Part 6: Forgive

Readings: Colossians 3:12-14;  Matthew 6:9-12


When people ask me for forgiveness if they have done something wrong, my standard response is simple. I usually quip: “it’s just as well. I’m in the forgiveness business.”

If last week’s message was about daily bread, this one is about a bread and butter issue. Forgiveness. God forgives us through Christ, and we forgive others. They belong together.

That’s why both versions of the prayer involve the partnership between God and us:

Mat 6:12  Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.

Luk 11:4  Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us.

Debts was a way in which people understood what we owe against God’s accounts book.  It represented sins in Jewish teaching. There was a word in Aramaic (Jesus’ mother tongue) that covered debts and sins as a single concept.

Trespasses which we use in the traditional prayer is the word in Matthew 6:15 and means transgressions or offences, or sins again.

Story: Of course the classic case of figuring this out is seen in the notice on the abbey put up by the nuns reading: “Trespassers will be prosecuted”. A tagger wrote on the wall: “what happened to forgive us our trespasses?”

Forgiveness has to be in this pattern for prayer because it is part of the Christian’s DNA. We are forgiven on the cross – not just the Romans and the Jewish authorities who put him there.

  • And the Father in this rescue mission is seen in the story of the prodigal son – running to meet us in a most reckless inappropriate manner driven by love.
  • God so loves the world that he gives Jesus John 3:16). God sends Jesus into the world not to condemn the world (John 3:17) but to rescue us.

We are forgiven – we forgive. It’s not either or – it’s both and.

It plays out beautifully in two stories.


One for Peter – who needs heaps of forgiveness when he denies Jesus. Matthew 18 is the context if you would like to turn to it now. It starts with the story of the lost sheep. That’s God’s heart reaching out as He does to the Prodigal son. And then the chapter deals with church discipline – trying to get people restored so they can start again.

Not surprising Peter has a question then about forgiveness. Have a listen:

Mat 18:21  Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Mat 18:22  Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Peter is feeling magnanimous. Probably please with himself as he is going the extra mile with this up to seven times story.

Jesus pushes him further – 77 or 70 times 7 (a deliberately ambiguous option).

The story rams it home. It’s a kingdom of heaven story in v23 – remember “Thy Kingdom Come” as the tone of the prayer?

Grace upon grace is extended to this man – his debt is forgiven.

But he sends his mate to jail for not paying a paltry amount in comparison.

The King writes off a debt that would take about 200 000 working day’s wages to pay. The forgiven servant throws his friend into prison for the wages of 100 days. The extremes speak volumes.

Who gets offended? The other servants – because injustice is clearly seen and recognised as out of sync with what was happening. They are greatly distressed (v31). When grace is received it is too powerful not to be extended to others.

The man who received grace and did not extend it ends up being tortured.

And the story ends – especially for Peter as leader I suspect – not with a discussion on writing of debts, or even that when people are good to us we should pass it on. It ends with Jesus’ declaration on forgiveness -just for Peter but also for us of course:

Mat 18:35  “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart.”

Does that mean we should set up torture chambers?

No not at all.

  • We are meant to extend grace.
  • How can we not forgive others when we ourselves have been forgiven?

If God judges anyone based on this story it is not the unbelievers who are in the firing line – but the ones who have been forgiven – that’s us.

Judgement begins with the household of God. (1 Peter 4:17)

We are not to judge the world now (perhaps later we will). We are to hold each other accountable.

Like children we can say to each other – it’s okay to share the sweetness of the lolly jar – look how much you have been given – there’s plenty to go around. Grace has to be extended to others. We forgive.

And note verse 35 – it’s from the heart. It’s not superficial – or given begrudgingly. Like children who roll their eyes and say under instruction to a  sibling “I’m sorry”.

It takes time for us to allow our hearts to be softened and changed.


The second story about grace that I want us to consider is the woman in Simon’s house in Luke 7 – Simon the Pharisee that is. Let’s look at it. You might as well read the whole story:

Luk 7:36  Now one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, so he went to the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. Luk 7:37  When a woman who had lived a sinful life in that town learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, she brought an alabaster jar of perfume, Luk 7:38  and as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them.

Luk 7:39  When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.”  

Luk 7:40  Jesus answered him, “Simon, I have something to tell you.” “Tell me, teacher,” he said. Luk 7:41  “Two men owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. Luk 7:42  Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he canceled the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?”

Luk 7:43  Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt canceled.” “You have judged correctly,” Jesus said. Luk 7:44  Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. Luk 7:45  You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. Luk 7:46  You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet.

Luk 7:47  Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little.” Luk 7:48  Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” Luk 7:49  The other guests began to say among themselves, “Who is this who even forgives sins?”  Luk 7:50  Jesus said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace

Powerful isn’t it.

The more mess you have cleaned up and forgiven – the more you love Him.

And He loves us long before we understand how bad our sins are. Yes the prodigal son came to his senses and went home. But he only understood grace when he received the welcome and the blessing. The ring, the robe, the fattened calf, the party, the welcome and acceptance again to the family.

United Pursuit has this song “Hidden”.

I’ve given you the words so you can follow them.

It spoke to me because it could be my testimony. I was drawn to God in bereavement at 12 years old. Well follow the song. So often people say repentance leads to grace and faith. In my experience grace came first. It lead to repentance. Read the words then I want to play for you. It captures for me the powerful grace and love of God which draws us closer and gives us a desire to become purer.

Verse 1

There was One when I was young

Who knew my heart, He knew my sorrow

He held my hand

And He led me to trust Him



Now I am hidden, in the safety of Your love

I trust Your heart, and Your intentions

Trust You completely, I’m listening intently

You’ll guide me through these many shadows


Verse 2

As I grow and as I change

May I love You more deeply

I will lean upon Your grace

I will lean because Your goodness is unending


Chorus 2

You are my vision, my reason for living

Your kindness leads me to repentance

I can’t explain it, this sweet assurance

But I’ve never known this kind of friend

I can’t explain it, this sweet assurance

But I’ve never known this kind of friend


Verse 3

The sun, moon and stars

Shout Your name, they give you reverence

And I, will do the same

With all my heart I give You glory



Chorus 3

I want to seek You first

I want to love You more

I want to give You the honour You deserve

So I’ll bow before You, I am overcome

By the beauty of this perfect love


Chorus 1

Have a listen:


I love that a new generation of young people is serving him like these guys.

You can see how much deeper our love for him grows when we continue to receive grace and kindness we don’t deserve.

Forgiveness comes naturally when we understand how much we are forgiven.

And we need to model this love and forgiveness as we share this greater story of what Jesus has done with others.

No matter how bad it gets – grace is real and possible. Jesus shared it by being friends with the worst of sinners. They repented later when overwhelmed by his love.

He loves you fully and completely too. Are you hidden in the safety of His love?

Do you trust Him completely? You can – and then you can take the risk of forgiving people.

Are you listening to Him intently?



About robinpalmer

I am a Presbyterian Pastor living and working in Browns Bay on the North Shore of Auckland in New Zealand. We moved here at the end of March 2011 after spending five years in Wellington the capital city. I am passionate about what I do - about communicating and writing. I also enjoy my counselling work, especially with young people.

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